We all know that we should be prioritising tasks that must get done, that looking after kids always seems to take most of our time (and working, looking after the house etc etc!) but what about making time for yourself and more of what you love? Do you ever feel like you’re giving too much of yourself?
Now that it’s Spring, there’s no better time to do some spring cleaning for your personal life to get back more of what you put out there.
Here are some ways to help to help bring that into fruition:
1. Be honest with yourself
If you could create your perfect life, what would it be? Write down the things that you would like to have more time for in your life, like reading, learning a hobby or spending time with people that you enjoy being around.
2. Reflect on the things you’re currently doing
It helps to make a list of what you currently spend your time on — from working to caring for kids to running errands. Think of it as a synopsis of your weekly life. You’ll want to look at this compared to what you want to see more of in your week.
3. Decide what you can compromise on
You might not be able to change the fact that you have to go to work, but how you get there could be changed. Maybe the stress of driving is wearing you down (I know it used to stress me out all the time!) Instead of making yourself crazy, try taking public transport and reading at the same time or walking if you can to get some fresh air and exercise. Then you get more time to do something nice and you don’t have to deal with traffic — a win-win.
4. Stop saying “but”
If you’re always saying you want to do something and adding “but” in there afterwards, it’s time to change that way of thinking. Those three little letters are convincing you that you don’t deserve the things you want more of.
Let’s look at a common place where you add “but” in your life. You need to get groceries for your family. No one can deny that’s not important. “I want to take that new hot yoga class, but I have to go to the supermarket.” Well, not exactly correct! Our marvellous online world allows you to order all of the things you need and click and collect or even better, delivered to your door. Problem solved.
We even add this “but” when we need to make dinner. No, you don’t. You can prep those meals on Sunday or make double or triple portions and voila! Your early evenings are free to pick up another pursuit. We’re so trained to feel guilty for indulging in the things we want, but the truth is that we need to do these nice things for ourselves because otherwise we can’t be our best for everyone else.
What are 3 things you want to make more room for in your life?
For me personally, I’d love to free up time in my days to be able to get more fresh air and sunshine (when it’s out!) plus I want to make meditation part of my daily life. I have therefore signed up to a mindfulness class and have set myself the challenge of starting with 30 minutes fresh air a day…. small steps!
Why not set yourself a challenge today and start with one small thing…..